Miscarriage at 13 weeks 💔

 

I missed blogging so much, but the past three months were not easy at all. It is pretty obvious from the title what I will share with you today. I would love to share what I have been through because it wasn’t easy at all and I want to share everything I have learnt throughout this journey. So the story started on the 20th of November, when I accidentally discovered out that  I was 5 weeks pregnant. It wasn’t planned at all( I was still on my IUD) so it was a huge surprise for everyone.

We went to my doctor and the first thing he asked about was my IUD. He tried to remove it but he couldn’t find the string. He said that is totally normal, however I have to make the hormonal test every 48 hours to make sure that the hormones percentage is doubled. So After 48 hours I made it and it wasn’t doubled, I called him and he said that it means that this is an ectopic pregnancy and I have to go to the hospital. I made a scan but nothing was clear. So it was a very long week for us and I had to make a scan like every 3 days or something. After a very very long two weeks it was finally confirmed that I have the sac in my uterus.

Afterwards for me everything was pretty normal. I was suffering from nausea, morning sickness, dizziness, just all the symptoms of the first trimester. Then I made the 12th week scan. Everything was normal, the baby was fine, we heard the heartbeats and it was totally normal. We were super excited and happy with the new family member. We even started to guess what gender would it be.

By the end of week 13, I started to feel cramps and back pain but I thought it was normal since my uterus is expanding so no worries ( Actually I was excited because I thought my baby is growing). Then it started to get heavier with the worse back pain ever. I called my doctor he told me to take a pain killer and not to move from the bed till the next morning and I should go for a scan first thing in the morning.  It was Wednesday night, the cramping was way heavier, I was throwing up everything I drink or eat and there was a very hard shivering in my body with a very bad bone ache. I couldn’t even move my fingers. We went for the scan the next morning and the technician found out that there were no heartbeat😢. She didn’t tell us anything. She just asked me to move around a bit and eat something sweet. For me that made no sense because I saw my baby, there were no heartbeat and it was really obvious, like there were no sac. It was like a big piece of dough, you cannot differentiate between the baby and the sac.

I was starting to feel worse physically. We went to ER and the doctor told me to go back home as long as there were no bleeding and I will miscarry naturally since the baby already passed.

We went home and late at night I was shivering really bad and I couldn’t stand the pain anymore and by accident I felt like I am hot. We went back to the ER and they found out that I had fever due to a blood infection from the dead baby.

My temperature was really high at that time and my blood temperature was very low. It had reached 73/50. They were trying so hard to keep my vitals measures normal before starting with any process.

Due to my two previous c-sections and the IUD. They had to induce me naturally first. I was induced for three hours but nothing happened at all and I was still suffering from the blood pressure, fever and shivering.  So they decided to put me under anesthetic and make DNC ( where they are going to wash my uterus from everything and remove the IUD).

It was a very hard period in my life and it is still is. I am still taking antibiotics through IV Cannula. But I wanted to share it because it was a very hard experience for me and my family. I wish no one would go through this at all. You might find loads of spelling and grammatical mistakes in this blog. But I hope you will understand how hard it is for me to write this blog.

At the end, I know everything happens for the best and I totally accept it and I feel grateful for everything I have been through. I wrote this blog to increase the awareness and ask each pregnant lady to be very cautious and aware of every single detail she is going through, not to hesitate to share any thing weird with her doctor and do not be shy and most importantly BLEEDING IS NOT THE FIRST SIGN OF MISCARRIAGE. Actually I started bleeding after coming out of the operation room.  So please please take good care of yourselves, share every single detail with your doctor and have a safe pregnancy and delivery.

Thank you all.

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18 thoughts on “Miscarriage at 13 weeks 💔

  1. You are so brave to be so transparent and open in this blog about this difficult event in your life. I’m sorry for your loss. I wish I had better words to share with you. There’s probably nothing I could say to make you feel comforted. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  2. So sorry to read this. How awful for you. I hope you’re able to support each other. Thank you for sharing this painful experience as many women go through similar and not many people talk about it.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words. I shared it to increase the awareness so no one would ever go through the same. I never thought that having fever is a bad sign or is something related to the pregnancy.
      Thank you again ❤️

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  3. I’m sorry to hear about this, you are so brave to share all this. Pardon me for taking this liberty but, life goes on, you just have to stay strong.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words. I am feeling better now Ilhamdulelah both physically and emotionally but I felt like people need to know more about miscarriage to avoid any complications.
      I really appreciate your comment ❤️❤️

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  4. Thank you for sharing YOUR story. Thanks for not holding it in. I have overcome 5 miscarriages. 4 of them I passed at home. 1 through DNC/DNE. And then years of infertility. I am also choosing to speak my story to other women to help remove the stigma of fertility. And also to help make these topics less taboo. If you would humbly consider following me to help get our stories out, that would be just beyond amazing. We need each other. ♥ Hugs to you today.

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    1. Oh! You are very strong and brave to go through all of that. It is really important to speak up so others would learn more from our experiences and know they are not alone ❤️❤️ All the love to you

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  5. I am so sorry for your loss. Inshallah your little baby is in heaven and at peace! I had a very close friend who experienced 2 ectopics back to back and I know how heart wrenching it was for her to lose her babies. I hope you and your family stay strong together in this time. I will keep you in my prayers sister!

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    1. Thank you so so much for your words and for your prayers ❤️❤️❤️. At first, they said it is ectopic but my miscarriage was septic which is miscarriage with infection. I hope everyone would learn more about it because it was very critical and life threatening. We are all here for each other ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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  6. Your experience sounds so traumatic, you are so incredibly strong to have shared so openly your journey. 💜. I’m So sorry that you have had to go through this xx

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    1. Thank you so much dear for this comment. I had to share because I didn’t know anything about blood infection which would have made the case even worse. But Thank god I truly survived. I would never ever wish anyone would go through this ❤️❤️❤️
      Thanks again ☺️☺️

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